Conversation starters for couples

Use these questions as a starting point to set the mood and get to know your partner better.

1. What would you do if you knew you could not fail?
2. What song are you listening to on repeat right now?
3. What physical and emotional gestures do you appreciate most?
4. What is something you are not willing to compromise on?
5. What kind of books (TV shows/movies/video games) do you like? Why?
6. What are some of the highest-valued things on your bucket list?
7. Have you ever wanted to move anywhere else?
8. What things do you look forward to each day?
9. What is something you are really good at?
10. What is something that cheers you up when you are sad?

Dig a little deeper to get a better insight into your partner’s philosophy on life, with the following questions.

1. What had the biggest impact on your self-esteem growing up?
2. Which family member do you confide in most?
3. What is your favourite family tradition?
4. Who has been the most influential person in your life and why?
5. Who is the person in your family you’re the most honest with?
6. What are some essential values you learned from your childhood?
7. What are your favourite forms of self-care?
8. What is your favourite thing about yourself?
9. What is your predominant love language?
10. If you could pick one year of your life to do over, which year would you pick and why?

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Get to learn about each other’s past and reflect on your relationship.

1. What is the earliest memory you have?
2. What is your favourite childhood memory?
3. What were your nicknames growing up? Are there any you didn’t want to stick?
4. What were your favourite pastimes?
5. What was your dream job growing up, and why?
6. What is something you did as a child that your parents don’t know about?
7. What was your first impression of me?
8. What is the weirdest thing we have done together?
9. What is your favourite memory of us?
10. If you could relive one day of our relationship, what day would you pick?

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Feeling a little daring? Try to answer these juicy questions without blushing!

1. What first attracted you to me?
2. What do I do or say that turns you on the most?
3. How would you rate your kissing?
4. What is your favourite cuddle position?
5. How comfortable are you with public displays of affection?
6. If I let you dress me, what outfit would you pick for me for our next date?
7. When I m gone for too long, what do you miss the most about me?
8. What are the ways you like to be touched?
9. What is your idea of hot foreplay?
10. What are your thoughts on roleplay in the bedroom?

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Delve into each other’s personal preferences, experiences, and views on life.

1. What does being successful look like to you?
2. What is the hardest life lesson you have had to learn?
3. How well do you think we handle disagreement?
4. Have you completely let down your guard with me? Why or why not?
5. If you could heal a pain inside of me, what would it be?
6. Am I a safe person for you to talk to? If not, how can I improve?
7. What do you think we need to work on the most in our relationship?
8. How do you think we have both changed since we have been together?
9. What are your thoughts on transparency in a relationship?
10. How have we both changed since we have been together?

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Expect unique, funny and surprising answers!

1. What was the worst ending of a movie you have seen?
2. If you won the lottery tomorrow, what would you do with the money?
3. What reality show do you think you would be most successful on?
4. What superpower do you wish you could have?
5. If you could frame and hang a quote on the wall, and look at it every day, what would the quote say?
6. Do you believe in destiny?
7. What is the most expensive thing you have bought for yourself?
8. In your opinion, what is something that is worth splurging on?
9. If you were given one year to live, what would you do differently?
10. When is it a good time to keep a secret? When is it not?

Take turns completing the following statements.

1. If my life were a novel, the title would be …
2. My most difficult challenge right now is …
3. … is the word you use the most
4. I was drawn to you because …
5. … always reminds me of you
6. My favourite thing about you is …
7. Your … always makes me smile
8. You look best when you wear …
9. The first thing I noticed about you was your …
10. I … on purpose to turn you on